Monthly Archives: October 2012

Tuesday Ten


1. I went out for a Girl’s Night Out last night with two of my best friends. We went to this great little Mexican restaurant for drinks and desserts.

2. I really needed that intelligent, adult interaction with other people who are not my husband.

3. Even still, I didn’t sleep well last night and woke up cranky and in a stabby mood. Not a good mood to be in the morning after a Presidential debate. I just want to bitch-slap the stupid out of people.

4. To make up for that, I saw the first trailer for Iron Man 3!

5. As awesome as the movie looks, I am extremely disappointed with their decision to whitewash Mandarin. Ben Kingsley may be a phenomenal actor, but are there really no Chinese actors who are just as phenomenal?

6. I am making sesame ginger marinated steak for dinner tonight.

7. I just started watching David Tennant‘s run as Doctor Who after buying the giant Tenth Doctor set of DVDs on Amazon. I really do need to get with the program when it comes to watching really good television when it actually comes out instead of years later.

8. My office is getting closer to being done every day. This makes me extremely excited.

9. This post on Murderati made me sniffle a bit because I’ve definitely been feeling like continuing to write is a pointless endeavor.

10. I really don’t have a ten. So, instead, have some pictures of a cat in wigs via The Bloggess.


Deep Fried Spam


I seemed to have reached the point where the spam comments here have taken on a weirder, if more coherent (and more hilarious) form. Rarely now do I receive comments which are just a list of links. Oh no.

Now I get such gems as these:

From my post Interesting Things Live Inside My Walls

While the vagina is actually a structure with side and back walls, women can get panic stricken when an item seems to get lost or is not retrievable. We get requests on our Community Board for help in getting things back out of the vagina. Similarly, as a clinician I would sometimes find “lost” objects during a speculum exaam.

Mrs. Winchester headed west to build a home for herself and her ghosts. She bought a six-room farmhouse on 162 acres in California and set to work building, a task that would occupy her until her death 38 years later. But how did she end up with such a weird house? Why did she construct stairs that went nowhere and doors that opened into walls? Find out on the next page.

And from Praying For A Fellow Writer (the post I seem to get the most spam comments on) –

Clearly you have never flown Business or First Class with Singapore Airlines……….now THAT is a totally different and unqiue fab experience ..and puts CP, Emirates, Air France,? JAL and even Quantas to shame.

Or from Manic Monday

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I really do wonder at the thought processes behind the use of these types of spam comments.

Wherein I Weigh in On My (Conflicted) Feelings About Gawker’s Outing of a Redditor


There’s been a lot of talk about Adrien Chen of Gawker outing the personal information of one of Reddit‘s vilest contributors, ViolentAcrez. I’m seriously conflicted in how I feel about this. John Scalzi has a great post up about this whole mess and reading both it and some of the comments over there is what really crystallized my thoughts.

On one hand, I despise men like ViolentAcrez. From everything I’ve read, he’s a bully, a troll, racist, homophobic, and misogynistic. And he has a serious case of “Anything I do to others is fine, but I’m gonna cry like a fucking whiny brat if it happens to me.” I do not feel sorry for him. I have no sympathy for him. I have no pity for him. He is a pathetic excuse for a person who is finally learning that actions, even those that are supposedly anonymous, have consequences. He’s also learning that our actions affect not only ourselves, but those people whose lives are entwined with ours.

However, I’m uncomfortable with this situation as well because not too long ago, a website called Stop The GoodReads Bullies outed the private information of at least one reviewer who posted negative reviews. Like ViolentAcrez, Wendy Darling had done nothing illegal. She had simply done something which the people at STGRB found distasteful and wrong just as Adrien Chen found Violentacrez actions to be distasteful and wrong.

Both Wendy Darling and ViolentAcrez have had their meatspace lives impacted by their online actions. They’ve both received hate mail and death threats. ViolentAcrez lost his job.

So here is where I’m conflicted – I feel no sense of outrage over what happened to ViolentAcrez. As I said above, he is a vile, disgusting human being who delights in degrading and shaming those who aren’t him or like him. In fact, I’m perfectly okay with Adrien Chen having outed him. And I’m perfectly okay with him being fired over it.

But I’m not okay with what happened to Wendy Darling. In fact, I was extremely outraged by it.

So the questions I’ve been asking myself are – Where’s the line? When do we get to decide that a person is deplorable enough in their online persona that their meatspace life becomes fair game?

With so much publicity surrounding this issue, I can’t help but wonder when we’re going to see more such outings. What happens when somebody who finds homosexuality morally repugnant and a sin decides to publicly out an online homosexual gay-rights activist? What if that activist lives in a place where his/her life could be at risk if people knew s/he was gay? Or an equal-rights for women activist is outed as living in an extremist country?

We never mind when the negative consequences affect “The Other Guy” because he obviously “Had It Coming To Him”, but what happens when those same tactics are used against “Our People”? Can we really cry foul? Can we really condemn it without being hypocritical?

Thus my dilemma.


Tuesday Ten


1. It’s been a rough couple of weeks, but things are starting to look up.

2. I’ve barely written anything all month, but thanks to a brainstorming session with one of my CPs, I think I’m getting back on track.

3. I’m not big into handbags, but I would get quite a bit of use out of this one! (h/t to C.E. Murphy for the link)

4. This weekend we bought all of the drywall supplies for my office. It’s almost done!

5. I also spent the weekend with both my older sister and her kids and my sister-in-law and her kids. It was tiring, but very fun.

6. I baked chocolate chip cookies last night.

7. I now have six dozen chocolate chip cookies screaming my name. I think I need to give some away before I devour them all myself.

8. Saturday was my birthday. I am now officially 32.

9. Hubby bought me The Avengers!

10. I bore myself sometimes. I’ve started and deleted about half a dozen posts over the last week or so because none of them seemed interesting enough.


Tuesday Ten


Because all the cool kids are doing it (namely two of my writing partners)…
1. It’s October. How the hell is it October? Wasn’t it just June? *sadly waves goodbye as the warmth slowly seeps from the earth* At least it being Autumn means fresh, local apples and warm mulled cider.

2. I want to go apple-picking this year. I’ve never been and for some reason I have the urge to do it. One of these weekends.

3. I fell back into my old habits of just sitting on my butt in front of the computer all day. Now more of my jeans don’t fit. This means it’s back to letting Jillian Michaels kick my butt again.

4. At least I’m eating better and drinking more water. Today’s lunch was baby spinach with feta cheese and walnuts and just a little dash of balsamic vinegar.

5. Speaking of food… I made lemon-raspberry bars the other night. OMGYUM! They’re not the healthiest snack ever (a full cup of butter and nearly 3 cups of sugar! YIKES!) but they are so delicious and so flavorful that only a small piece is satisfying.

6. Speaking even more of food… It’s a cold and rainy day so think I’m going to make some corn chowder in the crock pot for dinner tonight.

7. Autumn is generally when my husband’s job gets super busy. This means he’s been working seven days a week for at least 9-10 hours a day. Having the alarm go off at 5am (or earlier) every morning is really throwing my sleep schedule off and I’m certainly feeling the effects.

8. I also haven’t seen him very much and I kind of miss him.

9. Because of the continuing wangst surrounding negative reviews I’ve decided not to continue rating my 52 books in 52 weeks list. I’ll still add the books I’ve read to the list though. If anyone wants to know what I think of certain books, definitely feel free to ask and I’ll be more than happy to tell you.

10. My birthday is coming up. I’ll be 32 this year. I seriously do not feel that old.

Bonus 11. Halloween/Samhain is also right around the corner. This makes me ridiculously happy.